Queen of Zan: dear the world

queenofzan:

please please please stop acting like nerds/geeks/whateverthefuckyourpreferredterminologyis are not attractive. Please. Someone’s interest in computers or comics or whatever the hell else people enjoy obsessing over has little to no connection to their attractiveness or dateability.

Please….

anavinoslo: lettherebedoctor: narcissablacks: # you just look like an idiot when you leave the tags there - especially as i am clearly talking to my friends who you do not know #even if you don’t have a clear tags button just delete them it’s not that hard OKAY. I’ve been ignoring this (and by ignoring I mean complaining endlessly to my friends and family but not actually mentioning it on Tumblr) for too long now. I keep seeing all of these requests that people “clear the tags”… sometimes going so far as to call the failure to do so “plagiarism”. Honestly, I think this tags thing has TOO FAR.  I should explain that this is coming from someone who uses VERBAL hashtags in every day conversation with friends. I mean, we once had an entire conversation that lasted most of the night in which the phrase “hashtag” proceeded EVERY comment. I enjoy clever tags. They are often quite amusing. They are not, however, the body of your blog. If you are talking to your friends DO SO WHERE IT BELONGS. If you are commenting on a reblog… DO SO WHERE IT BELONGS.  Comments and conversation do not actually belong in the tags box. What is a tag?  A tag is a word or phrase that helps people find other blog entries on a specific topic. A tag helps people find an old entry they remember writing and need to pull up for reference. What is acceptable tagging humor?  Satire, sarcastic tags, things similar enough to an actual functioning tag, but meant more as a joke. What is not actually helpful as a tag?  Anything else. Long paragraphs of text. Clever comments. Things that take you longer than a few seconds to think of. I do not have a “clear tags” button. I do not have interest in spending my life hitting little x’s on long-ass tags that may or may not have taken real effort to create. I do not appreciate being told I look like an idiot for having a frame of mind more similar to those who designed the tagging system. The main text box (or Caption box on image posts such as these) are where your clever comments should go. It is a regulated concept that has worked for decades. Tags are there for a reason and that reason is to be helpful to others, not as an additional text box for you to write less legibly in. EXAMPLE: You post an animated gif from a movie.   -You should tag it #Name of Movie, #Name of character, #small (less than a sentence) clever comment, #I love this (or similar comment) ^This is correct -YOU SHOULD NOT tag it #Long rambling paragraph about how much this movie (NEVER NAMING IT, IF YOU HAVEN’T SEEN IT OR DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS IT SUCKS TO BE YOU HA HA LOSER) totally rocks and has changed your life and means everything because of how attractive that main character is #Oh and how ridiculous is it that we saw your brother at the mall the other day, right? #I can’t believe people are stealing my fucking tags again I mean stfu and make your own amirite? ^This is not okay. Please stop making a big deal over how we, who follow the rules set forth by the creators of the tags system… are wronging you, who make your own rules and cry about it when they are broken.

anavinoslo:

lettherebedoctor:

narcissablacks:

# you just look like an idiot when you leave the tags there - especially as i am clearly talking to my friends who you do not know

#even if you don’t have a clear tags button just delete them it’s not that hard

OKAY. I’ve been ignoring this (and by ignoring I mean complaining endlessly to my friends and family but not actually mentioning it on Tumblr) for too long now.

I keep seeing all of these requests that people “clear the tags”… sometimes going so far as to call the failure to do so “plagiarism”.

Honestly, I think this tags thing has TOO FAR. 

I should explain that this is coming from someone who uses VERBAL hashtags in every day conversation with friends. I mean, we once had an entire conversation that lasted most of the night in which the phrase “hashtag” proceeded EVERY comment.

I enjoy clever tags. They are often quite amusing. They are not, however, the body of your blog. If you are talking to your friends DO SO WHERE IT BELONGS. If you are commenting on a reblog… DO SO WHERE IT BELONGS. 


Comments and conversation do not actually belong in the tags box.


What is a tag?  A tag is a word or phrase that helps people find other blog entries on a specific topic. A tag helps people find an old entry they remember writing and need to pull up for reference.

What is acceptable tagging humor?  Satire, sarcastic tags, things similar enough to an actual functioning tag, but meant more as a joke.

What is not actually helpful as a tag?  Anything else. Long paragraphs of text. Clever comments. Things that take you longer than a few seconds to think of.

I do not have a “clear tags” button. I do not have interest in spending my life hitting little x’s on long-ass tags that may or may not have taken real effort to create. I do not appreciate being told I look like an idiot for having a frame of mind more similar to those who designed the tagging system.

The main text box (or Caption box on image posts such as these) are where your clever comments should go. It is a regulated concept that has worked for decades.

Tags are there for a reason and that reason is to be helpful to others, not as an additional text box for you to write less legibly in.

EXAMPLE: You post an animated gif from a movie.  

-You should tag it #Name of Movie, #Name of character, #small (less than a sentence) clever comment, #I love this (or similar comment)

^This is correct

-YOU SHOULD NOT tag it #Long rambling paragraph about how much this movie (NEVER NAMING IT, IF YOU HAVEN’T SEEN IT OR DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS IT SUCKS TO BE YOU HA HA LOSER) totally rocks and has changed your life and means everything because of how attractive that main character is #Oh and how ridiculous is it that we saw your brother at the mall the other day, right? #I can’t believe people are stealing my fucking tags again I mean stfu and make your own amirite?

^This is not okay.

Please stop making a big deal over how we, who follow the rules set forth by the creators of the tags system… are wronging you, who make your own rules and cry about it when they are broken.

(Source: caleblaundryjonas)

pansexualpride: projectqueer

pansexualpride:

projectqueer

Fucking stop arguing, you can't win.

“When are you going to talk about scripture that condemns homosexuality?”

The question came from a young woman who attended a workshop based on my book Bulletproof Faith: A Spiritual Survival Guide for Gay and Lesbian Christians. This particular workshop was held a couple of years ago on a college campus and attracted a cross-section of students who were both supporters and detractors of homosexuality.

This question is usually asked by a pro-gay person who wants to know how to answer challengers who quote scripture. This woman was different — she had come for an argument and intended to challenge me with anti-gay interpretations of scripture.

“We’re not going to talk about those passages specifically,” I told her. “Instead, part of this workshop is on why we should never argue scripture with anyone ever again.”

She was visibly disappointed and left halfway through the workshop. I now realize that I should have given her a more in-depth answer to her question, because there are still plenty of people, both for and against homosexuality, who insist on arguing about what the Bible does and does not say about homosexuality.

There are several reasons that gays and lesbians should never argue scripture. First, it’s pointless and nobody wins. Those who are anti-gay have their authorities and scriptural interpretations and so do pro-gay people. No one wins a “they said, they said” argument because no one will believe the scholars from either side no matter what argument anyone makes.

Secondly, arguing over scripture just hardens the opinions of both sides. Neither side is willing to give an inch. This is not a true dialogue, it’s simply a contest of who can argue the longest, and usually the loudest. No one is convinced, and everyone leaves further entrenched in their own ideas, and usually angry. No education happens, and little, if any, compassion ever happens.

Thirdly, the arguers on either side never share the same starting point on scripture. Those who are anti-gay are more likely to see the Bible as the infallible “Word of God” — which means the words literally dripped from the lips of God through the pens of the scribes and onto the page. Each jot and tittle is God-breathed and never to be contradicted. (Never mind that much of the Bible is full of contradictions and much of it we disregard with impunity these days. Those sorts of inconveniences never actually apply to the argument around homosexuality.)

Those who argue from the pro-gay side are generally those who see the Bible as inspired by God, but not the literal, infallible words of God. This means they are more open to different interpretations and approaches to scripture. Those who see the Bible as “God’s literal word” only know one way to read any passage, and it’s usually to back up their current beliefs about God, homosexuality or any other issue.

The most important reason, however, that gays and lesbians should never, ever argue about scripture is because the Bible has nothing much to say about homosexuality. We have to remember that this is an ancient book. It was written at a time when people believed the world was flat and that the earth was in the middle of a three-tiered world with heaven above and hell below. It was written at a time when people believed that the whole of human reproduction was held in the sperm of a man and a woman was merely an incubator. Speaking of women, this was a time when they were seen as chattel — property to be passed along from father to husband, from husband to brother and so on. It was written at a time when slavery was seen as God-ordained and animal sacrifice was the way to cleanse sins.

In short, we cannot extract modern ideas from an ancient book. The writers of the Bible no more understood homosexuality than they understood that a spherical Earth orbited the sun. At most, we have a commentary on same-sex sexual behavior involving lust and abuse, but nothing — pro or con — about the modern concept of sexual orientation. We don’t take the Bible’s word for it that the earth is flat and women only incubate babies and contribute nothing else to the process. Why on earth would we take it as an authority on sexual orientation?

The Bible remains a holy book because it maps humanity’s journey with God, and not the other way around. Because it maps our journey with God, it maps our evolving understanding of how the Holy works in this world. Humanity has moved from seeing God as a harsh judge and lawmaker to a seeing God as full of grace, mercy and love.

We don’t learn about God by pulling out tiny details of the book and proclaiming them as true for all time. Instead, the Bible puts us in touch with God when we recognize its overarching message, which can be summarized by 1 John 4:7-8: “Beloved, let us love one another, because love is from God; everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love.”

The reason gays and lesbians should never argue over scripture is because, not only does scripture not condemn homosexuality, arguing over it produces nothing but strife, division and hatred. Anything that does not promote love is not of God. Instead of arguing, let us love one another, even those with whom we disagree. This is God’s message to us. Nothing else matters.

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lostgrrrls:

lizlet:

lilithfilm:

mollylehman:

Tell your fucking friends.

Fucking vote. Please. :)

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For fuck’s sake, guys. It’s not that hard.

Are you voting tomorrow, friends?

Voting is not something you should blow off, folks.  Midterm elections are just as important as the “big” elections.

ableism 101

aboardchelonioidea:

I’m not disabled. Disabled rights do not mean anything to me. I have had a poem, memorized since before I learned I was disabled that I feel is relevant:

First, they came for the gypsies, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a gypsy.

Then, they came for the Bolsheviks, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Bolshevik.

Then, they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew.

Then they came for the trade unionists and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Catholics. I didn’t speak up then because I was a Protestant.

Then they came for me, and there was no one left to speak up for me.

[Attributed to Pastor Martin Niemöller. This is not his preferred version, but it is the one I learned.]

Do not ever assume that something does not apply to you. It very well may one day, and in the case of disability, it is very likely it will.

Dying is better than having a disability. How many people have uttered “I would rather die than” be blind, be in a wheelchair, etc? It assumes that people living with their disabilities are either admirable for “persevering” or  too cowardly to take their own lives. Heaven forbid that someone just live their life.

Invisible disabilities do not exist. Yes, they do exist. But, hey, feel free to ignore medical evidence and believe that everyone is lying.

That not being able-bodied is a tragedy which one “suffers” and must desire a cure. Perhaps initially, but one eventually needs to accept reality. At which point, it’s not suffering; it’s a way of being. Cures are just not going to happen with a lot of disabilities; a person accepts this and enjoys their life to its fullest.

Disabilities, particularly invisible ones, are easy to fake. First, no it’s not, particularly not for a lifetime. Second, there isn’t any real benefit. A person with a disability is ridiculed for it. Extra time on exams or quiet environments, accommodations I receive, have both been proven to give no testing improvement to a non-disabled person.

A disabled person is less valuable than an able-bodied one. This comes up a lot in discussions about abortion; one would obviously not want a child with a disability. The implication being that the choice is made solely based on how normal the child will be. I will state that being female has, and in some countries still is, considered a disability. Is that also acceptable?

I do not advocate anti-choice. Yet, I do take offense to people being put into categories as being not of equal value. What if we reverse it? A disabled woman wants to abort a normal fetus. Does this fetus have more rights to her body?

People with X disability also always has Y disability. While there is cormordality between some disabilities, this does not mean that it is always true or even mostly true. A person who is blind is very rarely also deaf. Someone who is deaf is not mute by default. Someone with attention deficit is not necessarily also developmentally challenged. A speech impairment does not prove a language deficiency.

A disabled person is required to disclose his or her disability and prove it. This is equivalent to me asking someone about their last bowel movement; it’s none of my damn business.

A person is defined by their disability. This is a very limited view; it would be equivalent to defining an able-bodied person solely on their English capabilities. It’s narrow and assumes a disabled person only ever thinks about their disability.

Everyone is a little disabled. No. Everyone may be a little inconvenienced, but they are not disabled. Disability is defined by it making normal daily activities more difficult. An able-bodied person may be tired at the end of a 10 hour shift. A disabled person may be tired at the start of it.

My sister/friend/partner/person I know has a X disability! I know how it feels! No, a person can only know what it feels like to be themselves. That said, this is a very depowering statement; it trivializes the experience of the referred person and the person one is currently addressing. It reduces time living with a disability to a series of observations, and don’t think for one moment that it’s all the worst or best parts. Even in the case of “I have X disability, too,” that does not mean the experiences are the same.

Having/overcoming a disability is so strong/enlightened/inspiring. Putting someone on a pedestal is just as objectifying as treating them like garbage.  It used to be “he’s done so well, for a colored person” that was said. Doesn’t sound so okay anymore, does it?

http://refract.me/2009/11/17/ablism-101/ 

(Source: queerslut)